“You have to say no to good things, so you can say yes to what’s best.” It was when I first heard someone say those words that saying no took on a new meaning to me. I was no longer letting people down or avoiding responsibility- I was simply holding out for different opportunities… better opportunities. Needless to say, I began saying no more than I ever had before.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that saying no is inherently wrong or that we should say yes to every opportunity that comes our way. I think there are many valid reasons why we should say no to things- whether those “things” be a job, a relationship or an adventure of some sort. But here is where I found myself:
I had begun to say “no” simply because I was afraid of what would happen if I said “yes.”
What a terrible way to live! To be in constant fear of stepping out of the comfortable life I had formed for myself. In constant fear of how badly I would fail at whatever new opportunity came my way. Since realizing this was the reason i was saying no so often, I resolved that every time I said no, I would immediately follow it with a “why?”. And if my answer to the “why” was because I was afraid of what would happen if I said yes, it wasn’t good enough.
Slowly but surely, my “no’s” have begun to take on more meaning, and my “yes’s” have begun to create some great stories, and I would have to say…. It’s a much better way to live.